"Love" the ever so evasive, the mysteriously "unobtainable" for many. Love often is like water, the harder you reach for it and squeeze, the more it seems to go right through your fingers. Yet there are the select few that actual find it mutually in one another and for certain they not only believe in each other's love, but they actually live their lives accordingly with respect for that precious love that they found in each other.
I once saw an elderly woman at a convenience store, and at the time I was standing there with my then present second wife, but my now ex-wife and she noticed the glow that we seemed to give off as a newly wedded couple. She looked at us and completely saw the happiness (however temporary it proved to be or even false at this point) in us and asked us " Awww you guys just got married, you look like newly weds?" I said "Yes, Ma'am." She smiled and paused for thought.. I took it upon myself to ask her if she was married. The elderly woman said just as calmly, "Yes I am, in fact we've been married now about 45 years."
I was completely stunned by her answer and immediately turned to my then wife and said to her "Like wow...you see that? Love works and it is possible yes?" She agreed smiled and nodded a gesture of yes. I was very interested in asking her next..and said " Ma'am, if you don't mind me asking..how in the world have you guys been able to do that?" She smiled and replied and answered with the most profound wisdom I had ever heard on this subject..she said the following..i will never forget it..." Oh, well I don't know..it's easy I guess. It's just real simple, he's very nice to me and I'm very nice to him.". The shear simplicity of her wisdom in that reply floored me.
Well apparently that answer she gave didn't satisfy my then wife who was standing right there and she had to add a question of her own to this incredibly wise elderly woman. Forever seeking an argument and a debate she asks the woman.."So, what if you as a wife have a list of concerns things you want your husband to do and he perhaps may not agree with them or care to listen to me about them, even though I may ask several times. What do you do?" The elderly woman nodded her head as if to say.."How did I know that she was going to ask me that.." Poised like an adult trying to warn a child about playing with matches for the 50th time..the woman of senior status leaned forward and politely said to her..."Sweetheart, you have to "know" your husband. There are things that I may ask my husband about doing, and he gives me his feeling or position about it and once I already asked him and he gave me an answer, I already know asking him that same thing again over and over again, isn't going to change how he feels about it for he already told me. I just know not to ask him about that issue anymore, I respect his answer and if it's something that I feel I need to get done , I with respect to my husband may find another way to get it done that doesn't involve him. I cannot "make" my husband do anything, no more than he can "make" me do anything. we just respect each other."
I turned to my then wife and she had this look on her face to that would seem to say "Sorry miss you're lottery ticket claim for a million dollars just expired 10 minutes ago." I leaned forward and smiled..and said "Ma'am, God bless you both that is awesome that is incredible, and I wish you all th every best. Thank you for your time and words of wisdom, thank you."
Upon exiting the store I said to my wife at the time " See? How complicated is that? It's really very simple..45 years???? Wow!!!" The wife seemed to be unavailable for comment and conversation after this point and it was a long silent drive back home.
That to me was a perfect example of "love" in practice..not just in theory.
I once saw an elderly woman at a convenience store, and at the time I was standing there with my then present second wife, but my now ex-wife and she noticed the glow that we seemed to give off as a newly wedded couple. She looked at us and completely saw the happiness (however temporary it proved to be or even false at this point) in us and asked us " Awww you guys just got married, you look like newly weds?" I said "Yes, Ma'am." She smiled and paused for thought.. I took it upon myself to ask her if she was married. The elderly woman said just as calmly, "Yes I am, in fact we've been married now about 45 years."
I was completely stunned by her answer and immediately turned to my then wife and said to her "Like wow...you see that? Love works and it is possible yes?" She agreed smiled and nodded a gesture of yes. I was very interested in asking her next..and said " Ma'am, if you don't mind me asking..how in the world have you guys been able to do that?" She smiled and replied and answered with the most profound wisdom I had ever heard on this subject..she said the following..i will never forget it..." Oh, well I don't know..it's easy I guess. It's just real simple, he's very nice to me and I'm very nice to him.". The shear simplicity of her wisdom in that reply floored me.
Well apparently that answer she gave didn't satisfy my then wife who was standing right there and she had to add a question of her own to this incredibly wise elderly woman. Forever seeking an argument and a debate she asks the woman.."So, what if you as a wife have a list of concerns things you want your husband to do and he perhaps may not agree with them or care to listen to me about them, even though I may ask several times. What do you do?" The elderly woman nodded her head as if to say.."How did I know that she was going to ask me that.." Poised like an adult trying to warn a child about playing with matches for the 50th time..the woman of senior status leaned forward and politely said to her..."Sweetheart, you have to "know" your husband. There are things that I may ask my husband about doing, and he gives me his feeling or position about it and once I already asked him and he gave me an answer, I already know asking him that same thing again over and over again, isn't going to change how he feels about it for he already told me. I just know not to ask him about that issue anymore, I respect his answer and if it's something that I feel I need to get done , I with respect to my husband may find another way to get it done that doesn't involve him. I cannot "make" my husband do anything, no more than he can "make" me do anything. we just respect each other."
I turned to my then wife and she had this look on her face to that would seem to say "Sorry miss you're lottery ticket claim for a million dollars just expired 10 minutes ago." I leaned forward and smiled..and said "Ma'am, God bless you both that is awesome that is incredible, and I wish you all th every best. Thank you for your time and words of wisdom, thank you."
Upon exiting the store I said to my wife at the time " See? How complicated is that? It's really very simple..45 years???? Wow!!!" The wife seemed to be unavailable for comment and conversation after this point and it was a long silent drive back home.
That to me was a perfect example of "love" in practice..not just in theory.
